Sick is hard. Sick with two sick kids is ridiculous. Andi helped as much as he could over the weekend, but both kids want mommy. All the time. And there is only so much he can do. Vinny has been particularly difficult, hitting, kicking, throwing, he doesn't like me to feed or hold Elsie too much, but Elsie also has a fever and will not be satisfied with anything other than being held and rocked against my chest. I have not stepped foot outside the house for four days. I am either nursing or rocking the girl while the boy is jumping onto my stomach and off of my legs and pulling on me or hitting me on the face or hitting Elsie in the back of the head. It is awful.
Vinny has slept in the bed with me the past two nights, and Andi has slept with Elsie. But tonight Vinny is back in his own bed and Elsie has returned to her crib and we even lowered the crib a notch, sadly signifying her way out of babyhood.
I am not sure what to do with Vinny. I love him to pieces, but we are getting on each others nerves. He is testing me to a huge degree and I do not always react well.
Please dear God, let me be learning some patience from all of this.
Oh Mizz Mollz, you're not having a good week. :( I'm so sorry. All you can do with Vinny is wait...he'll grow out of this. Gavin was a complete nightmare and he's still a total ahole sometimes but nothing like when he was 2 and 3. Around age 4 he started calming down some. I read a book (this one: http://www.amazon.com/Raising-Your-Spirited-Child-Rev/dp/0060739665) that helped me see him in a different light. I have to read it annually to remind myself that he's not a bad kid and I am not a bad mom. He's just "more"...he's more spirited, more energetic, more emotional, more intense, more sensitive. Just more. As he grows up I find he is also more thoughtful, more caring, more selfless. Do you want me to bring you a copy in April? Bottom line...you're a fantastic mom. I see how patient you are...I always tell people patience is only something I have when there are witnesses. Hang in there...it won't be forever. YOU ARE FABULOUS, my beautiful sister! The rough times just make the good times that much sweeter. xxxooo
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry about your very hard time with the kids at this time. Being sick yourself and with two sick kids, I am sure, has been a nightmare for you. All I can tell you is that there will be days like that, but then there will be wonderful days like you have written about on your blog. Don't give up; there will be better days ahead for you and even with the often naughty 2-year boy you are trying very hard to raise. He, like all of us have bad days, but some more than others. You have always done a wonderful job with him and Elsie so I know things will improve. You love them and they love you which is what it's all about if you can just stay strong and take a lot of deep breaths. I wish there was someone nearby who could visit and give you a break.
ReplyDeleteLove, Mom